Reclaiming Your Power in Perimenopause: The Life-Changing Truth No One Told Us

By EmpowerHer

Perimenopause often enters our lives like a whisper—until it roars. The symptoms—mood swings, hot flashes, sleepless nights, brain fog—can feel disorienting and overwhelming. But what if this wasn’t a crisis, but a call? A powerful, necessary invitation to reclaim your energy, purpose, and voice?

At EmpowerHer, we believe perimenopause is not the end of something—it’s the spark of something extraordinary. This phase is a reckoning, a chance to redefine how you live, work, and show up in the world. In this blog, we’ll explore how perimenopause can be a powerful turning point—emotionally, physically, and professionally.

This isn’t the end. It’s the beginning of your next chapter.

Perimenopause isn’t just a medical transition—it’s a life transition. Hormones shift, yes. But so does your sense of self. It’s a powerful, life-changing time to take stock of who you are, what you want, and how you show up in the world.

Read about our Co-Founder’s journey and how she built a framework to rebuild her self confidence here.

Perhaps you have not thought of it like this before, so consider this an invitation.. It can be hard, at first due to the historically negative narrative around (peri)menopause, but soon you will discover other voices talking about it differently. Mentioning a new wildness, a new freedom. A breaking down of restrictive roles that have kept some of us playing small. Mary Oliver’s poem has a new resonance:

“Doesn’t everything die at last, and too soon?

Tell me, what is it you plan to do

with your one wild and precious life?”

If you have been wondering what on earth is going on know this – you’re not losing your mind. In many ways, you’re just waking up to yourself.

If you can weave in time to actually pause (I know, I know) and take note of how you are feeling – paying special attention to peace, anger, frustration and joy sometimes it is possible to see a new path forming ahead of you. Angry at a way that you are constantly being treated? Peri/meopause can provide new clarity to create action for change. Noticing where you feel joyful? Do more of that, make space for it. Find your heart longing for a day dream of youth? How can you bring that into the present?

Let’s talk about Hormones and Perimenopause.

During perimenopause, estrogen and progesterone levels fluctuate. That rollercoaster can trigger symptoms like:

Mood swings (because your brain is sensitive to hormonal dips)
Poor sleep (thanks to disrupted temperature regulation and anxiety)
Low energy or motivation (even when you’re “doing everything right”: think self help books, healthy eating, exercise)
Brain fog (your brain is literally rewiring—it’s not failing you. Instead of losing confidence try thinking of yourself as a teen or toddler – we don’t fault them, we understand that their brains are transforming. The same applies for you. Try and find humour in the situation. Find other perimenopause women to hang out with and laugh as much as you can)

These changes are real. And you deserve real support.

women between 35 - 50 together at work, chatting about perimenopause

You don’t need to “cope”—you need tools.

Maisie Hill encourages us to get curious, not critical. Instead of pushing through symptoms like they’re just part of being a woman, she invites us to track patterns, ask questions, and get support that actually works.

That could look like:

Working with your cycle, not against it (yes, even if it’s unpredictable, or you are not sure where you are in your cycle. Trust yourself. You know your body well enough to start keeping a record. I ALWAYS find myself looking at my tracking app on the first ‘autumn/luteal phase.. That tells me that there are symptoms and signs that lead me there)
Rebalancing your workload based on your energy levels. Which part of the day do you work best in. Again, trust yourself. You’ll get the work done, you always do, just perhaps now you need to pay more attention as to when it gets done.
Making friends with rest instead of seeing it as weakness. You know it’s not, right?
Speaking up in medical appointments (and not settling for “it’s just your age”) Write a list before you go, ask for second opinions or to speak to the menopause expert in your GP practice, take someone with you if you feel comfortable doing so.

You’re allowed to change—and even want more.

As mentioned previously, perimenopause is a time when many women begin to feel a pull. Maybe it’s a career pivot. A creative urge. A deep need for space, stillness, or a change in your relationships.

Listen to that voice.

As Hill writes, “This phase of life can be a portal to clarity. It demands that you take up space and honour your needs. That you drop the mask of perfection and get real.”

“Get real” – what would that look like for you?

Empowerment starts with education.

At EmpowerHer, we believe that every woman deserves to understand her body, her hormones, and her power. Perimenopause isn’t something to hide. It’s something to embrace—with community, courage, and compassion.

So, if you’re feeling a little lost right now—know this:

You’re not alone.
You’re not broken.
You’re definitely not done. (Though you may be a little tired, and a little ‘done’ with some things in your life!)

This is your time. Perimenopause is your portal—and we’re right here with you.

Please get in touch if you would like any further information about our services,

With best wishes, Amy xx